Readers Are Furious With Mag Over Severe Cat Neglect Story, PLUS: Buddy’s Le Handsome Club!

New York magazine’s article included difficult-to-read details about the severe neglect of a pet cat, and didn’t offer any reassurances that the forsaken feline was okay.

Happy Thursday! Before we get into today’s cat news, I’d like to share my current Google News search string, which has helped me keep my sanity over the last few weeks. It’s simple:

“cat -doja -vance -shot”

And voila, no more stories about Doja Cat, fewer blood pressure-raising articles about people who think shooting felines is a sport, and you’re mercifully saved from the 17,457th “think piece” about JD Vance and cat ladies.

The “relatable” column about severely neglecting a cat

New York magazine’s editors knew they were wading into a minefield with this week’s pet ethics issue, and the author of a story about neglecting her cat knew it too, which is why she took the preventative step of using a nom de plume.

In a column titled “Why Do I Hate My Pet After Having A Baby?” (later softened by the editors to “Why Did I Stop Loving My Cat When I Had A Baby?”), “Audrey” writes about severely neglecting her cat, Lucky, after having her first child.

She not only developed what she calls a “postpartum loathing” of Lucky, she admits to not feeding the poor feline for so long that Lucky ate plants out of desperation, then predictably threw up. The forsaken feline began eliminating on the floor because her litterbox was not being scooped. She lost “at least one tooth” and because even water was denied her, she had to drink out of the toilet. The life-threatening neglect and emotional abuse lasted months.

“If I treated a human the way I treated my cat, I would be in prison for years,” Audrey admits, describing Lucky’s own descent into depression as the cat became the scapegoat for all of Audrey’s negative feelings.

Cats (and dogs) understand a lot more than we give them credit for, especially when it comes to our emotional states, to which they are hyper-attuned because they are directly impacted. We’re talking about animals who have been companions to humans for 10,000 and 30,000 years, respectively. Not only does their companionship predate human civilization and the concept of recorded history, they have evolved to intuitively read human facial expressions and body language. They can even smell our pheromones, which means they’re often consciously aware of our moods before we are.

I’ll never forget what my brother said to me a few weeks after I adopted Bud, upon meeting the little guy for the first time: “You’re his whole world.” I’ve tried to make that world as loving, safe and fun for my cat as I can, because he deserves it. He’s given me back so much in return.

Adopting comes with responsibility. It’s not just about meeting an innocent animal’s basic needs, like food and water. It’s about providing our four-legged friends with good lives and never taking our bad days out on them.

“Audrey” says she tried to get rid of Lucky, leaving the windows of her home open, and because the original version of the story dealt almost exclusively with the author’s mental health, readers were disturbed by the lack of any follow-up on Lucky’s situation.

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The negative reaction was so strong that New York’s editors took the unusual step of attaching a note to the story claiming they “confirmed the welfare of the cat prior to publishing the story.”

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That didn’t satisfy the magazine’s critics, who accused them of behaving “callously” by presenting the author’s abuse of Lucky as a “relatable” symptom of post-partum depression.

“Why are you ignoring one of the most controversial articles you’ve ever published instead of addressing it?” one reader wrote. “It’s not going to just go away – we will not forget … The people will not stop until that cat is safe and loved, and your publication is held responsible.”

Insisting the magazine’s editors be “held responsible” is a bit much, and I’m not a fan of censorship. The bigger issue is the lack of concern for the cat even in retrospect, and the attempt to normalize postpartum animal abuse, as if it’s just a thing people do. It feels like a missed opportunity to explore why such things happen, and to examine the problem with compassion for all involved, human and animal.

Buddy the Cat’s Le Handsome Club is now open to le handsome cats

This is really just an excuse to show off my latest poster promoting PITB, but readers will recognize the concept of Le Handsome Club from earlier satirical stories about the Budster.

Le Handsome Club
Le Handsome Club: The club for le handsome cats!

I’ve written before about “real Buddy” and “cartoon Buddy,” which is the version of him that exists in PITB’s world of absurd satire. Cartoon Buddy is real Buddy with his quirks, narcissistic qualities and amusing lunacy dialed up to 11.

Someone once asked me how to write a children’s book because they want to write one about their pets. Since I’ve never written a children’s book I wasn’t much help, but I did share the basic process for Buddesian hijinks: Imagine a situation, then imagine how Bud would respond to it if he could speak.

The more ridiculous, the better, and I think it’s worked out well, with stories about Buddy getting conned by a Nigerian prince’s cat, the ongoing saga of Los Gatos catnip cartel and the meowfia, Buddy’s disastrous first (and only) term as president of the Americats, and the Budster’s ongoing bromance with the jaguars of the Amazon.

So yes, Le Handsome Club. I could definitely see my cat, who thinks he’s Catdonis and Arnold Schwarzenegger rolled into one, founding a club for really, really, ridiculously good looking cats, to paraphrase Ben Stiller’s Zoolander.

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Very le handsome.

11 thoughts on “Readers Are Furious With Mag Over Severe Cat Neglect Story, PLUS: Buddy’s Le Handsome Club!”

  1. Perhaps its time to send a message to the print media outlets. Stop reading them and stop paying for them in print. Hit them where it hurts for them. Readership is ebbing for many – let’s keep that on a downhill slope.

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  2. “Audrey” should be imprisoned … – animal abuse leads to other crimes, if she has mental health issues she can seek help ( my own issues led to a stay in a hospital for a while) I owned it, admitted it and faced up to it- the age old excuse of “yeah but you’re not me” doesnt cut any ice – the issue was mine and only me could fix it, I got better but I NEVER tortured or hurt another sentient being, just myself. Audrey is a far greater risk – face it and fix it, there are millions of us that have, she is nothing special or any different to any of the rest of us

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    1. I can’t claim to know anything about postpartum depression, but like I wrote, I think this was a missed opportunity on the part of the magazine. If they were gonna insist on going there, the smart thing to do would have been to make it clear it’s not acceptable and to examine why it might happen and how people can get help. Like you point out, help is available and we have to take it if we need it.

      I didn’t link to them, but there were a few reactions from psychologists saying they’ve dealt with this sort of thing before, though perhaps not to the degree Audrey neglected her cat.

      Maybe I’ll follow up with a post about the reactions from psychologists and what they have to say about it.

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  3. I had to wait until my blood stopped boiling on this insane bs! Plus, i needed time because i contacted every single client who had a pet when they gave birth. I told them about this story and i asked them if i am being too personal do not answer my question. They were happy to. Not one woman told me they had any feelings to hurt thier pets when suffering from post partum depression. Each woman have different degrees of it. My friend is a psychiatrist and cat owner. She told me some her female clients had it so bad they needed meds. Most had a dog or cat. In her 30 years of practice not ONE of them wanted to hurt that pet? How does she know this? Because she asked if they had wanted to hurt thier CHILD OR PET. Sissy Beans is correct. GET THAT CHILD AND CAT AWAY FROM HER.

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    1. I mentioned in my reply to John that there were some interesting psychologist reactions to the neglect story. I wasn’t able to get into that without making the post too long, but maybe it’s worth examining for a follow up post.

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      1. When Spunkmeyer sees Buddy’s picture he yawns. But he also sees photos of me and “dad” and yawns so don’t worry Little Buddy! You aren’t alone! He ignores everyone equally!

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